sometimes it snows in april

I read the news and now I'm sitting in a public place eating chicken and waffle fries while my children scream and frolic with their friends in a plastic room that smells like feet.

The loss of Prince is shocking and sad for a great many of reasons. The man was only fifty seven! He was arguably at the top of his game (does he ever fail to astound when he's holding a guitar?) Oh, and also, like Bowie, he seemed impossibly, eternally ageless. 

I grew hearing of Prince and occasionally happening upon one of his songs here and there on the radio and the bygone music television channels of my youth. However, my real introduction to  the breadth of his mad genius came via one of my closest high school friends. 

 Beginning my junior year of high school and lasting well into our college days I spent countless hours as one of a rotating cast of characters riding in my friend Patrick's car. I remember he had one of those multiple disc changers that he had to load from the trunk. Among others, Patrick's compact disc collection consisted of Parliament, Lenny Kravitz, Queen, and mostly Prince. A shit ton of Prince. Our wise ass crew was never without a soundtrack to accompany our teenage shenanigans and you best believe those shenanigans were riding high on some funky New Power soul. 

Over the years, I became familiar with albums like Lovesexy and Sign O The Times and songs like "She's Always In My Hair" which weren't anything of which I had previously been aware or expected. I joined my friend on many a trek to record stores in search of one more Prince bootleg. I found myself caught up in conversations revolving around the details of this man's peculiar relationships with protégés and record companies. Eventually, regardless of how obsessive i may have found my friend's fandom to be, I got it. It only takes one glimpse of this guy letting loose on a guitar solo to realize you're experiencing something special. That swagger. That sly grin. Effortlessly manipulating that guitar. He was like Mozart and Hendrix and James Brown and like no one else before or after. 

 Many have and will continue to write more adequate words than I'm certainly able to conjure. These are my memories. Just a few memories of my formative years. Years which were set to a good deal of music composed and performed by this guy who changed his name as much as he changed his wardrobe. I'm grateful for the inspiration he's given to artists over the years. I'm grateful for these memories. 

Thanks Patrick. 

 Thanks Prince. 

my ally

This week, we celebrate sixty five youthful years of a son, brother, friend, teacher, father, mentor, grandfather, hero. 

I've forever admired my dad for so many reasons. We are incredibly different human beings and yet I consider him to be one of my closest allies. When he didn't know what else to do with me, he loved me. We've grown together. He makes me feel like he's my biggest fan and I hope that he knows that I am his. There isn't a day that goes by that I'm not grateful for his presence in my life. 

He held my ankle when I first learned to ride an incredibly still horse.

Together we crept through a sea of white people in incredibly tight short shorts...

And laughed at our fortune when we successfully made it out unscathed.

We once celebrated his birthday with a chocolate Garfield cake and I missed my chance to photograph him. Enduring one of my mild temper tantrums, he kept as cool, calm, and collected as anyone could expect while continuing to pose when I retrieved my camera.

Always a class act.

Let's cleanse the pallet with this adorable snapshot of the two of us passed out after an intense episode of M*A*S*H (I can only assume).

If there was ever any doubt about the man's style, one need look no further than this.

Here's to you, Dad!

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